The Most Difficult Decision

The most difficult decision you will make

One of the most difficult decisions you will make in your life will be concerning forgiveness. Even if it is not something you are dealing with at the moment at some point you will have to decide whether or not you will forgive the person who has hurt you. As you are reading this, someone who has hurt you may be coming to your mind, and you may be thinking you don't know what this person has done to me. They don't deserve my forgiveness. However, forgiveness is a choice, and you can choose to forgive that person no matter what they did to you.

Lewis B Smedes once said "To forgive is to set a prisoner free and to discover that prisoner was you." When we choose to resent another person for what they have done to us, we are not hurting that person, we are only hurting ourselves. Recently, I was reminded of that. I had chosen not to forgive someone who had hurt me. I had told that person that I had forgiven her, but I realized later that it was merely words and I had not forgiven her. I was carrying bitterness and anger towards her and was consumed with what she had done to me. I had a heaviness within me and I did not even realize the root of that heaviness. It wasn't until I finally forgave that person that that heaviness lifted and I felt free.

If someone came to your mind while you were reading this, I urge you to forgive that person, not so that they can be free, but so that you can. If you have resentment in your heart ask God to free you from feelings of resentment towards that person. Tell that person that you have forgiven them, and chose to forgive them, whether or not they accept your forgiveness and if they have forgiven you.